But you’ve never married.
No, I never really fell in love, so I never saw the point. If I understood what ‘they’ were trying to tell me, I was in love, but they all said that wasn’t good enough: I had to ‘fall.’ It’s finally happened… if by falling in love they mean that life becomes impossible to live and you hardly know how to get from one moment to another, and that you cannot entertain the idea of living without the approval and love of ‘the object.’ If that’s what falling in love is, I know what it’s like.
My Long-Overdue Love Letter to Leonard Cohen by Elizabeth Boleman-Herring (Huffington Post: July 2, 2012). The quotation is from a June 18, 1988 interview. Rebecca De Mornay (1993) photo by Christof Graf (taken from Christof`Graf`s Leonard Cohen book “Zen & Poetry” – The Cohenpedia Series Vol. 1).
DrHGuy Note: While the identity of “the object” is not revealed in the article, the date and description of the relationship clearly indicate that the woman Leonard Cohen references is Rebecca De Mornay.