Leonard Cohen On Learning To Live With Loneliness

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I think loneliness or emptiness is a fearful condition and I’ve certainly felt it throughout my life. I think you have to learn to live with it. You have to get used to being married to your hand.quotedown2

Leonard Cohen

 

From Having Lunch With Leonard Cohen by Jon Wilde, Sabotage Times. Posted Dec 3, 2015 (the quote itself is taken from a 1988 interview). Originally posted April 13, 2014 at DrHGuy.com, a predecessor of Cohencentric

“Is sex the most sacred? I dunno. I forget.” Leonard Cohen


What are the sacred things? Sex most of all? Love. Intimacy. The Eyes. The Intensity. The secret? The first kiss. Anything else?

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Well, in all these things, you stand the risk of being rejected. I think that’s mostly what constitutes danger for people, the sense that it’s not going to work. Outside of famine, war, torture, sickness and death, that’s probably the thing on a daily level that we worry about the most. Is sex the most sacred? I dunno. I forget. [laughs]quotedown2

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From Having Lunch With Leonard Cohen by Jon Wilde, Sabotage Times. Dec 3, 2015 (the quote itself is taken from a 1988 interview).

“It’s a mistake to blame things on other people, especially your parents. Everybody suffers, but growing up involves forgiving – not using relationships as an alibi.” Leonard Cohen

Leonard Cohen & his mother, Masha. Photo courtesy of Leonard Cohen.

Leonard Cohen: Thoughts Of A Ladies’ Man by Elizabeth M. Thomson. 1979 interview reposted to FolkTracks: Jan 12, 2017.

Leonard Cohen On His Family’s “Normal Superficial Relationships”

Interviewer: My father and I are both deeply involved in music, and I got so much of my love for it, and I suppose gift for it, from him. That created discord as well as harmony, though the former has long departed. Working with your son, did any tensions surface? And if so, how easily were they resolved? I imagine it must have been an intense – and intensely joyous – experience. But these things are rarely straightforward.

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You live much more intensely than I. In my family we all enjoy the normal superficial relationshipsquotedown2

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From the Dan Cairns – Sunday Times Culture questionnaire Leonard Cohen sent me Oct 17, 2016. Portions of that questionnaire were incorporated into Leonard Cohen: Hey, that’s some way to say goodbye by Dan Cairns (The Sunday Times: October 23 2016), but this specific response was not used.

Photo from Adam Cohen Facebook Page

“The kind of visibility that one thought was essential is not attractive to the better sexual partners. On the contrary.” Leonard Cohen On Sexual Desire

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When did [wanting to be sexually desirable] start looking foolish to you?

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I think when I realized the consequences of all this love-making. It leads to houses and children, and you really realize what the thing is all about, and how it’s available for everyone in this day and age. Here one was slaving away at one’s desk writing poems and songs, hoping to attract girls or boys or whatever it was, and outside in the world, the sexual revolution took place unbeknownst to the author. Everyone was coupling behind every bush, and here he was still writing the perfect sonnet to attract the girl next door. It became quite apparent that the average chap who worked on Madison Avenue was in much better sexual condition than most of the pop stars and was exercising his appetite with greater facility. It’s much better to be the bass player than the star. Everybody knows that. If that’s what you’re interested in getting. I think that the kind of visibility that one thought was essential is not attractive to the better sexual partners. On the contrary.quotedown2

Leonard Cohen

 

Leonard Cohen Looks at Himself by Danny Fields. Soho Weekly News, Vol. 1, #9. December 5, 1974, Thanks to J.J. Harchaoui, who shared this article.

“I imagine the guy with the title Great Lover is in the same boat as the guy with the title Poet; he can’t get a date.” Leonard Cohen


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There’s something about the description [Great Lover] that I find very distasteful and which I would never want applied to me. There’s something in it that indicates that the man never loved anybody. Anybody who achieves that title, somehow. I wouldn’t want to be on the list. I imagine the guy with the title Great Lover is in the same boat as the guy with the title Poet; he can’t get a date.quotedown2

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Leonard Cohen, quoted in Yakety Yak by Scott Cohen (1994), Originally posted Dec 2, 2013 at DrHGuy.com, a predecessor of Cohencentric