“I don’t think I came across as a particularly good lover. I’m much better at friendship.” Leonard Cohen On His Reputation As A Ladies’ Man

[Interviewer:] Cohen and I talk about his reputation as a ladies’ man…

I wrote a song a while back called ‘I Was Never Any Good at Loving You.’ And I think it’s true. I don’t think I came across as a particularly good lover. I’m much better at friendship. But I had a strong sexual drive that overpowered every other consideration. I had no idea who the people were that I was sleeping with. I mean, my appetite for intimacy – and not just physical intimacy but the intimacy that went with that activity – was so intense that I was just interested in the essence of those things. It was just an appetite. And consequently misunderstandings and suffering from both parties arose.quotedown2

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2001 interview from Stories Done: Writings on the 1960s and Its Discontents by Mikal Gilmore (Free Press: July 14, 2009)

Leonard Cohen on His Treatment of Women in The Favourite Game

What about the argument that [Leonard Cohen] fails women [in The Favourite Game] by denying them their human personalities, setting them up as only goddesses?

I can’t see things that way either. I don’t think anybody has failed anybody else. It’s only when you walk around with a programme or a fixed ideology or a strategy that you really encounter failure in this respect.quotedown2

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From Read Leonard Cohen’s exclusive interview with Hot Press from 1988 by Joe Jackson (Hot Press: 11 Nov 2016)

“The kind of surrender that is involved with love means that you have to take a wound also.” Leonard Cohen

foisdg2rnzmTS: Has you view of romance changed over the past twenty years, since you embarked on your songwriting career?

LC: Well, I think that it changes naturally, but I think that the position I took in some of those early songs is not so far from the position I take now.

TS: Which is?

LC: That the kind of surrender that is involved with love means that you have to take a wound also.

TS: Do you think that it’s a typical growth process, or that it’s more your own?

LC: I can’t believe that my predicament is unique.

From Stolen Moments: Leonard Cohen by Tom Schnabel. Acrobat Books, 1988. Photo by Antonio Olmos. Originally posted Mar 21, 2014 at 1HeckOfAGuy.com, a predecessor of Cohencentric.

Leonard Cohen On Love: “Nobody masters it”

Because of this fictitious reputation [as a lady’s man] I have the credentials that permit me to enter into conversations with the Great Ones. From what I gather, when it comes to objects of love that they desire – not the ones that come easily but the women they want – then the background is anxiety. It has a physical resonance. Nobody masters it.quotedown2

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The Prince of Prurience and Loss by John Leland, GQ: Nov 2001.

“Most of us cherish some sort of dream of surrender” Leonard Cohen On Relationships

Most men have a woman in their heart and most women have a man in their heart. There are people that don’t. But most of us cherish some sort of dream of surrender. But these are dreams and sometimes they’re defeated and sometimes they’re manifested.quotedown2

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From ‘I’m blessed with a certain amnesia’ by Jian Ghomeshi (The Guardian: 9 July 2009). Photo by Paul Zollo. Originally posted October 22, 2014 at DrHGuy.com, a predecessor of Cohencentric

“You can just see things more clearly. It’s a veil that drops.” Leonard Cohen On The Effect Of His Depression Ending

When the background of distress dissolves, you’re able to see people more clearly. [Interviewer: People who love you, you mean?] Yeah, or don’t.  You’re able to appreciate the authentic situation. You can just see things more clearly. It’s a veil that drops. You’re not looking at everything from the point of view of your own suffering.quotedown2

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Life Of A Ladies’ Man by Sarah Hampson. Globe and Mail: May. 25 2007. Photo by Paul Zollo (Pico Blvd, L.A. – Feb 26, 2007)

A summary of the clinical depression from which Leonard Cohen can be found at Leonard Cohen’s Depression, Its (Failed) Medical Treatment, & Its Resolution