“I don’t think I came across as a particularly good lover. I’m much better at friendship.” Leonard Cohen On His Reputation As A Ladies’ Man


[Interviewer:] Cohen and I talk about his reputation as a ladies’ man…

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I wrote a song a while back called ‘I Was Never Any Good at Loving You.’ And I think it’s true. I don’t think I came across as a particularly good lover. I’m much better at friendship. But I had a strong sexual drive that overpowered every other consideration. I had no idea who the people were that I was sleeping with. I mean, my appetite for intimacy – and not just physical intimacy but the intimacy that went with that activity – was so intense that I was just interested in the essence of those things. It was just an appetite. And consequently misunderstandings and suffering from both parties arose.quotedown2

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2001 interview from Stories Done: Writings on the 1960s and Its Discontents by Mikal Gilmore (Free Press: July 14, 2009)

Leonard Cohen On Psychotherapy, Drugs, Religion, Wine, Women, & Song


 
Interviewer: I asked him at the Mayflower if he’d ever tried psychotherapy …

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No. But I try everything else… It was an opinion of mine, based on no research or evidence-well, evidence, yes, because I saw my friends in therapy did not look improved. I preferred to use drugs. I preferred the conventional distractions of wine, women and song. And religion. But it’s all the same. [Interviewer: When you say ‘drugs,’ do you mean something like Prozac, or the recreational kind?] Well, the recreational, the obsessional and the pharmaceutical. I’ve tried them all. I would be enthusiastically promoting any one of them if any one of those worked. [Interviewer: Well, what about the wine and women?] They’re the worst of all. quotedown2

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A summary of information about Leonard Cohen’s depression can be found at Leonard Cohen’s Depression, Its (Failed) Medical Treatment, & Its Resolution. Also see Leonard Cohen’s Psychotherapy Session.

From Look Who’s Back at 67: Gentle Leonard Cohen by Frank DiGiacomo. New York Observer: Oct 15, 2001. Originally posted Apr 29, 2014 at DrHGuy.com, a predecessor of Cohencentric

“None of this represented the solution to a crisis of faith” Leonard Cohen On Choosing To Live At Mt Baldy Zen Center & Be Ordained A Buddhist Monk

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None of this represented the solution to a crisis of faith. I looked at it as a demonstration of solidarity with the community. I was never looking for a new religion. I was perfectly satisfied with my old religion.quotedown2

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From Leonard Cohen: Remembering the Life and Legacy of the Poet of Brokenness by Mikal Gilmore (Rolling Stone: 30 November 2016) Note:  The entire article – an excellent read – is available at the link.

Leonard Cohen Talks About How Life Changed When His Depression Ended

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I feel tremendously relieved that I’m not worried about my happiness. There are things of course that make me happy, when I see my children well, when I see my daughters dogs – that are things that produce a sense of real happiness and gratitude in my life, a glass of wine… But what I am so happy about is that the background of distress and discomfort has evaporated. It’s not that I don’t feel distressed, it’s not that I don’t get drugs and I don’t feel sad about things that I see and know and what happens to people around me. It’s not that the emotions don’t come, it’s just that the background is clear – before it was all one piece, it was very dark. I could pierce the darkness, and I know people in much worse shape than I was, but I always told myself, what do you have to complain about, and that was a good question, because I didn’t have anything to complain about. But nevertheless, and you keep it to yourself except it comes out in your work a certain sorrow or anguish or suffering, something that is not right. And by the grace of God, that feeling has evaporated, so that I can feel real sorrow now, it’s not the sorrow that emerges from the sorrow, it’s not just the melancholy that emerges from the melancholy. So when things touch me in a sorrowful way I can speak about them, and more important, I can feel them. Before it was hard to differentiate any feeling, because it was – there was a kind of mist, a kind of distress over everything, but that lifted. quotedown2

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Leonard Looks Back On The Past (unedited interview for Norwegian Radio) by Kari Hesthamar, Los Angeles, 2005. Accessed at LeonardCohenFiles

Leonard Cohen Questions His Identity: Poet? Hustler? Junkie? (1968)

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From Poet Writer Singer Lover Cohen by Paul Grescoe. Canadian Magazine: February 10, 1968. Photo by Jim Wigler (more about this image at The Story Behind That Photo Of Leonard Cohen Blowing Smoke Rings). Originally posted April 9, 2014 at DrHGuy.com, a predecessor of Cohencentric

Leonard Cohen On Love: “Nobody masters it”

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Because of this fictitious reputation [as a lady’s man] I have the credentials that permit me to enter into conversations with the Great Ones. From what I gather, when it comes to objects of love that they desire – not the ones that come easily but the women they want – then the background is anxiety. It has a physical resonance. Nobody masters it.quotedown2

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The Prince of Prurience and Loss by John Leland, GQ: Nov 2001.